How To Talk To Friends And Family About Placing A Baby For Adoption

3 April 2019
 Categories: Relationships & Family, Blog


Placing a baby for adoption is a challenging time. But you don't have to make your way through this process alone. If you need support from friends or family, but you're not sure how to talk to them, take a look at what you need to know about starting an adoption conversation.

Write It Down

Does the idea of telling your friends or family about your adoption plan make you nervous? It's completely normal to feel some degree of anxiety about how your loved ones will feel about your decision. If you're not sure what to say or can't face your friends/family yet, write a letter.

A letter allows you to express your feelings honestly in a thoughtful, planned way. You can outline what you want to say, read it later, revise your thoughts, and make sure you're saying exactly what you want in the way you want to. It also gives your friend or family member time to read and digest what you've said—before reacting.

Explain the Process

Your friend or family member may not know what placing a baby for adoption includes. Help them to understand what you're going through by explaining the process. Not only will your loved one get a better grasp on what you're going through right now, but they'll also realize that you didn't make a rash or uniformed decision.

Share Information on Your Terms

Tell your friends and family as much or as little as you want. If you're open to sharing, provide details such as who the adoptive parents are and how you chose them. If you don't want to go into deep detail don't. Instead, focus on your feelings and what type of support you need.

Ask for Help

Counselors and other adoption professionals do more than just facilitate the process. These experts understand how to help women who have chosen this path to move through the process, deal with their feelings, and begin to heal.

If you're not sure where to start, an adoption professional can help—all you need to do is ask. Whether you need to share your decision with a completely unbiased individual, are looking for direction on how to talk to your family, or just need a few adoption conversation starters, a counselor can help.

Even though talking to your nearest and dearest is beneficial, it's not always easy. From writing down your feelings to asking a professional for help, you can start a conversation and get the support you need.